How to Get What You Want
All successful people have one thing in common: they do what they need to be doing, when they should be doing it, regardless of whether they feel like it or not. Let’s examine this concept a little further. When setting a goal, especially a long-term goal, there are usually many possibilities of what one could do. Making a list of relevant things you could do is a good first step. The second step is to narrow the list down to things one “would do” using morals and values. From there the final step is to select what you need to do. This “need to do” step sounds simple, but in reality, it requires the most amount of discipline (Cyr, 2008).
Nobody wants to do what he or she “should”, so avoid waiting to feel like it to do whatever needs to get done. Losing weight is difficult, nobody wants to cut calories or cut out snacks, but eventually, we may need to do it if things spiral out of control. Parents push children into doing things they don’t necessarily want to do; moreover, as an adult one has to push him or herself to do those things.
The good news is that once you start, you instantly feel a weight lifted. For example, one may not feel like going the gym to exercise, but once one gets started it feels good, and one leaves with a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. This helps build a critical narrative in our lives that we CAN EMPOWER ourselves to embrace mental challenges and grow at the same time. Set a challenge to wake up a half-hour earlier than usual, and get out of bed as soon as the alarm sounds off. It takes that kind of discipline to force yourself to do the things you need to do (Robbins, 2011). Do something different. Go for a jog, meditate, do some push-ups. Your future self will thank you.
Setting worthwhile goals requires one to “level up”. Fear alone has ended more dreams and goals than actual failure. The perceived relief one gets from avoiding challenging situations is only temporary, but later we regret it for acting cowardly.
Practice makes perfect, so the more you practice the better you get. Avoiding performing unfamiliar or difficult tasks will prevent getting better. Difficult tasks will remain difficult and one will not be able to try new experiences (Ross, 2006).
Here’s the most poignant insight to impart, it’s important to learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. We grow by overcoming challenges and obstacles. The science of weightlifting and exercising reinforces this concept as a metaphor for growth in your life! The body will only respond to exercise and improve if it is challenged in a way that it is relatively unfamiliar with. If an athlete stays with the exact same program for too long without changing up, the athlete will experience a plateau.
This is also true for our emotional and mental growth. Challenge yourself to do one thing that is outside of your comfort zone every day, not something dangerous, but something that makes you nervous and challenges you in a positive way. For example, if you fear public speaking, join a debate group.
It is through this process, this mindset that you grow more confident and capable both inside and out.
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Cyr, B. (2008). Something to Think About: A Sensei's Notes. Brampton: Kaizan Publishing.
Robbins, M. (2011, June 11). How to stop screwing yourself.
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